This is your sign to change out of your pjs, darling
by abigail thielen
Many of us have spent our entire lives under the impression that we had to dress up for something or someone. The pandemic has put a halt to the occasions in which we’d normally transform into our most confident selves. Parties, club nights, and big get-togethers with loved ones are all on pause until it’s safe. But to stop expressing yourself solely because no one will see you is a disservice to yourself and your fun outfits!
Dressing up for ourselves is a great coping mechanism when we’re feeling low. When lockdown started, I found myself frequently wearing my pajamas and sweats all day. I lost the routine of going to class and seeing my friends and family which took a toll on my mood. Everytime I decided to get myself out of those emotional lows, I reclaimed my confidence and self-love by dressing in an over-the-top outfit. Sometimes, dressing up is as simple as putting on a normal outfit and doing my skincare. Even if you don’t feel great about the clothes in your closet at the moment, wearing your favorite shirt, styling your hair, or putting on some jewelry can make such a difference. Start small and work yourself up.
Now, many of us live with roommates or family members who may try to criticize your efforts to express your style. Give no space in your mind for these comments which usually come from negativity and insecurities. Experimenting with your style is a great way to learn more about yourself, and lockdown is the perfect time to do so. You do not need an excuse to dress up and have fun with your look.
I want to emphasize that staying in your pajamas all day is not a bad thing. I’m even in my pajamas as I write this. However, I challenge you all to stop believing that you don’t deserve to wear anything besides sweats and PJs because your skin is breaking out, your body doesn’t look how you want it to, or there’s no point in dressing up to go nowhere. Drag yourself out of the “Ugh, what does it matter? No one is going to see me” mindset, and do it for yourself. Feeling good is reason enough. You are reason enough.
Here are some takeaways to remind yourself as you build your self-confidence:
And a TikTok by @ashleyxsarah discussing this topic:
Wishing you confidence and self-love,